I launched my new book, Every Night’s Friday Night: Time and Freedom for the Rest of Your Life, a month ago with a book launch party for some of the people who helped make the book become a reality either by being interviewed or being a beta reader. Before it was published beta readers gave me feedback about the book and suggestions for additions or changes. It was a great launch event, everyone had a good time and enjoyed getting to meet one another.
I’m including a few pictures from the party. I signed copies of the book for everyone and sold many more. We ate lots of good food, drank champagne and wine and everyone found they had many things in common.
The following week, I launched the book online to a group of people and thanks to everyone for your emails and orders. We had 10 sales in the first hour! We've had a 75% open rate on the emails and a 50% click-through rate to the website.
Here are a few responses I’ve received from people about the book:
“I started reading your book last night and couldn’t put it down! It’s as if you were talking directly to me. Thanks again for your book, guidance and inspiration.”
— Inja Yang, Owner/Designer, Tansu Design
“I read your whole book and really enjoyed it. I liked the wide range of topics you addressed in the different chapters and the individual interviews made the concepts and aspirations more real. The short summaries of each person’s suggestions were pithy and perfect. I think a wide range of people who are planning for the next stage in their life their will benefit from your experience, wisdom and the interviews in this book. I will promote this gem!”
— Darla Romano, Psychotherapist
“I love your book!! Can I buy 10 more copies? I know lots of people I want to send them to!! I liked the way you divided life into the three phases and emphasized the importance of getting out and being engaged during this third stage.”
— Douglas Dolton, Owner/CEO San Francisco Motorsports
It’s encouraging to hear people are enjoying the book! I just found out that Book Passage, a well known local bookstore with three locations in the Bay Area, has just agreed to carry my book! Book Passage has also asked me to do a presentation and signing of books on Saturday, June 23rd at 1:00. For those who live in the San Francisco Bay Area, I'd like to invite you to join us.
In future blogs, I’ll discuss some of the tools I use with clients that I cover in the book to help you decide how to prepare for this third stage of life.
Overview of Every Night's Friday Night: Time and Freedom for the Rest of Your Life.
I wrote Every Night's Friday Night for my clients and anyone with an interest in mapping out their third stage of life. This stage is focused on personal fulfillment and inner development and generally begins in your 50s or 60s+. I wanted to write a book that was inspiring and entertaining to read that would give readers a view of life after careers as being exciting and more fun than working for someone else. I wanted to transform the feeling that retirement and aging are things to dread into love for the best years of your life because I believe this is a joyful time of life.
I use design thinking, prototyping and paradox thinking to put a new spin on ways to discover who you’re meant to be at this time in your life. The book also covers the downsides of aging, and how to turn change and adversity into advantage.
Every Night’s Friday Night gives you the process and courage to embrace retirement and aging knowing the best is yet to come. Plus, you gain the knowledge and comfort you are not alone.
Table of Contents
Chapter 1 - Time for Transformation
Chapter 2 - Design Thinking Creates Your Third Stage Identity
Chapter 3 - Paradox Thinking Expands Your Options
Chapter 4 - Change and Adversity Can Be an Advantage
Chapter 5 - Body, Brain, and Pain
Chapter 6 - An Inner Journey of Mindfulness and Spirituality
Chapter 7 - Connections with Others
Chapter 8 - Time Is the New Money
Chapter 9 - Creative Growth Activities
Chapter 10 - Your Legacy and Completion of Life
Ways to Contact Me
It’s with great pleasure that I welcome you to the Every Night’s Friday Night blog. I wrote Every Night’s Friday Night: Time and Freedom for the Rest of Your Life as a complement to my coaching services. My company, Third Stage of Life Consulting, and the book, focus on helping people transition from full time careers to what I call the third stage of life.
I refer to it as the transition to the third stage of life because it can happen at different ages. My clients tend to be around 50 years-plus. Some are preparing for the shift toward retirement while others are already in a stage of active retirement.
Active retirement involves a combination of some type of work (often part time) combined with a focus on other activities, like volunteering, serving on a board, health and fitness, spirituality, creative ventures, travel, finances, or leisure time with friends and family.
The third stage of life is an opportunity to shift gears and focus only on what you want to do and who you want to become. Some people are very proactive and have it figured out. But many don’t, and end up feeling like they’re spending time on busywork, property maintenance, doctor’s appointments, or any activity that fills the time. Leisure is fun for a while, but then people miss working (even if they didn’t like their job that much) because they haven’t found a roadmap to transition to a new life of purpose.
I started the Third Stage of Life Consulting to use my background in executive coaching to share with others what I’ve learned about making this transition. I retired in 2016 from a demanding and all-encompassing career I truly enjoyed. I was fortunate to work for a good company where I had opportunities to learn, to be challenged by different management roles, and to make a difference in the lives of others. I retired after managing a large team of people I cared about who collaborated, had fun, contributed to others, and did their best work.
I was also ready to get started on new things I didn’t have time to do while I was immersed in my career. I was ready for time and freedom after working 12+ hour days for years! There were a combination of things I wanted to do in my retirement, so I developed a process for myself and my husband to help us decide how to approach our lives during this next stage.
When I heard that others were also looking for a roadmap, I decided to use this process with clients who were going through the same transition. People who knew that I spent years as an executive coach and career consultant said they were interested in working with me and many referred friends and colleagues.
While building my private coaching practice focusing on the third stage of life, I wanted a book to recommend to my clients. I read everything I could get my hands on related to retirement and aging – 62 books in total! I can tell you that there is a lot out there, but I couldn’t find one that covered all of the topics I was discussing with my clients. And so, Every Night’s Friday Night: Time and Freedom for the Rest of Your Life was born.
It took me a year to write the book. There were many times I wasn’t sure I’d make it to the end. I learned to trust the process, I knew if I was meant to get it done, I’d get it done. I found lots of people who wanted to see the book completed, who also offered names of friends and colleagues to interview, or suggested topics to cover.
I wrote it while doing a lot of other things in addition to building my coaching practice, but that’s a story I’ll save for the book. You can buy Every Night’s Friday Night: Time and Freedom for the Rest of Your Life here. It’s my hope that it helps you create the best third stage of your life possible. I encourage you to contact me with comments about the book or for information on working together.